Lies. They infiltrate our thinking and give us a distorted view of reality. It can act as a hollow promise – something we thought would offer clarity but instead, it muddies the water more.
I think young adults are especially susceptible to believe many of the world’s lies that pertain to them. This is because young adulthood is often characterized by a quest for truth, purpose, worth, and many other values thus becoming vulnerable when “easy” answers are desired.
Thus, when the world steps in to offer an “easy” answer, young adults take it without much investigation.
This week, I want to talk about 5 lies that many young adults have come to believe in their life.
As I was thinking about tackling this topic a couple weeks ago, I asked my Instagram followers to comment on some of the lies that young adults are told.
It was helpful to hear from some other young adults on this topic – thanks if you commented!
Ok, enough of the intro! Let’s get into the meat of today’s post.
5 Lies Young Adults Believe
1. You should have your life all figured out, if you don’t, you’re behind
Decisions, decisions. Young adulthood is a time filled with decisions—decisions that are built up as having great significance and potentially life-altering outcomes.
An often unspoken, yet heavily implied assumption is that you need to have your life all figured out, that is, you have our life planned out from start to finish.
You should know what you want and how you are going to get there—all you need now is the time to get there.
The problem is when we try to pretend like we have our life all figured out, most of the time, we have not considered that maybe we are not trusting that God has a plan for our life. Our direction may change many times — God can still be leading you through every twist and turn.
But too often young adults, like me, feel we’re behind just because we haven’t created a 10-year plan (If you have, good for you, but I wouldn’t get to attached to it if I were you!).
2. With hard work, you can achieve anything you put your mind to
This lie ends up scaring a LOT of newly graduated high schoolers. Why—let’s think about it for a second.
If you had the ability to achieve anything you put your mind to—then you could be successful at anything.
If this is the case, young adults are choosing from a seemingly infinite number of potential careers in which they could be successful.
This may sound awesome, but when you take a step back, it is downright terrifying.
The good news is that God didn’t make us good at everything; he gave you a number of talents and abilities that you continue to develop to this day.
Not to say, with hard work, you couldn’t become quite proficient in a certain career or occupation, but what I am saying is that there are things that you are not going to succeed in—thats ok!
Breaking free from this lie allows you to evaluate what God has already placed in you, your skills, talents, and abilities. Furthermore, abandoning this lie will help you focus on the opportunities and interests you have and work heartily as you pursue them.
3. A University degree is the goal of young adulthood
Oh yes, the scary University… Seen as a right of passage for those who want to succeed in our society.
We hear that only unmotivated and unintelligent people choose to skip out on this essential aspect of young adulthood.
Sound familiar? Our culture wants you to believe that completing University is the only way to prepare you to do anything meaningful or important.
It wants you to believe that you are inferior if you don’t get a degree—that somehow a piece of paper will define your intellectual capabilities or your ability to be successful.
Well, I’m happy to break it to you—It’s not!
You don’t have to go to University.
There are careers that are useful and can only be practiced with a degree and if you choose to pursue this kind of degree because that’s where God wants you—great!
Whether you’re planning to get a degree or have one, you have to admit that this should not be the main goal of young adulthood.
Yes—if you want, explore future career options and pursue opportunities where they make sense, based on your interest and ability.
But don’t try to categorize a whole section of your life’s purpose to get a degree, if you do—you’ll miss out on all the God has for you during young adulthood.
Put effort into friendships, family, and other growing experiences. Don’t limit your purpose to just one achievement.
4. Your worth is measured by the opportunities that you have
When I discussed this lie with other young adults, I was surprised that I did not fully realize the breadth of its impact. I now see that it is very common in the lives of many young adults.
For older adults, their worth is often measured by how much money they have, their social standing, if their married and have children, etc.
Not that young adults don’t often use the same faulty measurement, but I have noticed that most young adults are not rich—I know, shocker right!
Because of this, opportunities have become the currency of young adulthood. The greater the opportunities—the greater the perception of personal worth.
Internships, mission trips, jobs, schools, vacations, and the list goes on.
The truth is that God has given us all unique lives to live. He wants you to do your best with want he has given you.
Regardless of what you do, your personal worth is not dependent on landing that internship, going on a short-term mission, or getting into a good school with a scholarship.
Isn’t that great, all the pressure is off right! Maybe it’s not that easy for you, but maybe it’s a good thing to take a humble pill every once in a while.
We all live different lives, and the measurement of worth based on opportunities is so subjective, it gives me a headache.
Understand where your worth really comes from and trust God that He has you where He wants you, even when you don’t get all the opportunities that you see other people getting.
5. Your “truth” is the only “truth” that matters
I have heard from so many people in our culture telling young people to embrace their truth of the world.
By their truth, they usually mean their experiences, beliefs, and ideology, all mixed together into what they call “their truth”.
I am going to be blunt with this one—brace yourself!
Your “truth” is not The Truth.
The culture loves the idea of relativism, the idea that all knowledge and truth is simply a subjective assertion in which the individual dictates what their “truth” is.
If you haven’t heard anything else in this article please hear this:
By the very definition of it, Truth is that which conforms to reality. Because of the Fall, man’s perception of reality has been skewed and thus we are incapable of clearly interpreting reality to produce ultimate truth.
However, in John 14:6, Jesus presents Himself as the Truth, thus establishing Himself as our ultimate reality.
You may have been told to follow your “truth”, but God calls you to follow Him as The Truth.
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Read my last blog post here – True Love Waits… For Whom? 4 Things To Look For In a Potential Spouse
Excerpt – True Love Waits was a phrase that was popularized during the purity movement of the early 2000s, which promoted sexual purity in dating and romantic relationships.
This phrase continues to be used in youth messages, books and inscribed on purity rings. Although I really do commend and support this message, I think this phrase doesn’t tell the whole story.